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1) AOL SUBSCRIBERS
Message from my listserv manager:
>
> The reason some AOL.com subscribers get unsubscribed and others don't is that
> the ones who get unsubscribed have clicked the "this is spam" button while
> reading your Smartmarriages message - it's that simple.  When they do that,
> AOL sends us the message they've reported as spam and their address, and we're
> supposed to unsubscribe them because as far as AOL is concerned the person has
> asked to not receive these messages anymore.  
>
> The way to stop getting unsubscribed is to stop clicking the 'this is spam'
> (it might be 'report as spam') button while reading the message on AOL.  
>
> Here's an example - xyxyxyz@aol.com  was unsubscribed from smartmarriages
> yesterday because they clicked on the 'this is spam' button when reading this
> message and we got the unsubscribe request from AOL, and we then unsubscribed
> them.

2) MAILBOX CAPACITY: BOUNCES

This is a high volume newsletter.

Please don't subscribe unless your email in-box has a capacity of at least 4 megs.

If your mailbox has less than 4 megs, your emails will frequently be
bounced back to us and you will automatically be unsubscribed.

Plus, we've been having trouble getting through to yahoo, hotmail and msn
addresses.  If you use those for email, you might want to consider switching
to another email service like Google's new FREE Gmail which has almost unlimited capacity.
www.gmail.com

>> Diane,
>> Not sure what it means when I get an email that tells me I have excessive
>> bounces, but when I tried to reestablish on the list by clicking on the
>> mailman confirmation link said it was a bad string.

Mailman automatically sends you a notice about bounces and unsubscribing you.
It includes a long string and you must copy the whole link in order to have in the
correct URL. If you just click on the link you might only get part of it. If the long
string is broken by a return, it won't work.

3) SPAM/PORN FILTER SETTINGS:

We send posts that porn and spam filters will screen and reject.  Examples: an article from the
Washington Post on teen "buddysex", notices about conference workshops on "Sacred Sex" or
"Internet Porn and Cybersex Affairs", books like  "Sex-Starved Marriage" or "Hot Monogamy",
and anything that's "FREE" -  announcements for
free workshops at the Smart Marriages conference or in your community, etc. 
In other words, PORN filters block the discussion of all things "sex" and a marriage
list is going to include mentions of sex. 
SPAM filters block emails that sell whether it's books, conferences, workshops, etc. Anything offered
"FREE" or as a "great deal" will be blocked as spam. 

SO, to let the mail get through, keep your porn/spam filters, BUT, set your mailbox filters to
accept anything sent from:  smartmarriages@lists101.his.com 

AND anything from the domain name smartmarriages.com.

Go to your junk mail filter and paste these addresses in your "approved senders" or  "white list"
or "safe list".

If your spam/porn filter blocks the smartmarriages newslist, the mail we send you will bounce
back to us and you will automatically be unsubscribed from the list after 5 bounces. 

> Diane,
> I block EVERYTHING.
> But, I have a "safe list."
> Your newslist and you are on that that list as:  smartmarriages.com
> I think I am getting all of your posts.
> Thanks,
> Frank
- - - - - - -  - -
> Diane--I installed ZONE ALARM 2 weeks ago and have not gotten any more e-mail
> from you. How do I fix this? Thanks.--JJC
>
I asked my server:
> He should ask the Zone Alarm folks this question - I'm not sure what's
> happening, since I think Zone Alarm is a firewall and also has the
> capability to filter 'dangerous attachments' (according to their web
> site) but I wasn't aware that it had spam-filtering capabilities.  It
> may be that there's something about smartmarriages that Zone Alarm
> doesn't like. 

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the smartmarriages newslist.  With 10,000+  subscribers we cannot manage the receipt
of these acknowledgements for each post to the list!

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